We recently contacted a beautiful BBW, one of the oldest and most popular members of Bustr dating site. We wanted to get her perspective on her experiences and BBWs’s online curvy dating. Our friend, let’s call her Lisa Ann, who asked to remain anonymous, was kind enough to share some of her thoughts and experiences about online BBW dating.
Q: tell us about the term BBW. When do you think BBW started?
Lisa Ann: I think it all started 7-8 years ago. I first thought of myself as BBW in my mid-20s, thanks to my circle of friends. I mean, before that, people would just call me fat, chubby, or fat but pretty, and I never knew there was something called BBW, and I actually belonged to it. One day, a friend came to me and said to me: “look, Lisa Ann, I saw an article on the Internet that I had to Google this semester, BBW, and when I did it, it basically spelled” Lisa Ann. (laughter) and then we did some more searches on Google and saw these sexy curvy beauties. It was a revelation to me. In the whole world, BBW is the queen. I immediately decided I wanted to be queen, too.
Q: how about online dating? When did it start?
Lisa Ann: I think I opened my first account on a curvy dating site about six or seven years ago. It was a normal website, like Match.com or something, I don’t remember. I was thinking, what the hell, I had nothing to lose. I liked it right away because I still had some confidence issues, and I definitely felt safer and more comfortable sitting behind the keyboard because I had well-chosen photos and well-designed profiles. After a while, I became more relaxed and open, and I started approaching people, approaching them, even asking for a date.
Q :BBW dating?
Lisa Ann: that was later. As I explored the world of online plus size dating, I realized that there were too many “scenarios” and niches, many of them tailored to people like me. At first, I didn’t like being put in that particular drawer, and to be honest, I was afraid I’d be exposed to a bunch of freaks and scumbags. But then a friend, also from BBW, told me about the site she frequented and I decided to give it a try. I eventually left BBW’s first site, but I was still “on site”.
Q: what do you like about BBW dating?
Oh, I like a lot of things. For example, I like honesty. When you see a girl’s profile on the curvy dating app, you immediately know she’s a BBW, even if you only see her face or something. On other, more common dating sites, images can be intentionally or unintentionally deceptive, leaving room for a lot of misconceptions, and can even cause a lot of harm. It used to happen to me a lot when a guy started talking to me, and when I sent him some full-length photos, he would shut down, or disappear, or block me, and he would disappear, and I even got some very hurtful insults. You won’t find anyone like this on BBW’s dating site, because needless to say, women are BBW and men are BBW. In this way you skip the awkward and possibly painful steps.